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Here is le thing about sex toys: If you don't have any experience owning or using one, then they can seem kinda scary. Ofc, your first ~adult~ toy doesn't have to be a foot-long mechanical thrusting dildo called the Kinky Power Banger—and tbh, it probably should't be. Not sure where to get started? IMO, for non-intimidating toys that seriously deliver, ya really can't beat Dame sex toys. Dame Products was founded in 2014 by sexologist Alexandra Fine and MIT engineer Janet Lieberman, and if you're looking for powerful, high-tech, body-safe, and frankly adorable toys, then this is the place to go. Here are a few of our top recs, ICYWW.

"Our mission at Dame is to close the pleasure gap by creating tools and resources that champion pleasure, thoughtfully and intentionally, and help people with vulvas experience holistic sexual health," Alexandra Fine, CEO and co-founder of Dame, tells Cosmo. And how do they do this, you ask? By designing inclusive and accessible pleasure products that appeal to newbies and sexperts alike...and that shoppers "don’t feel the need to hide in the back of their underwear drawer," as Fine says. And Dame toys aren't just aesthetic—they're incredibly ergonomic.

Dame has an entire research arm in their product development process called Dame Labs, which allows the company to receive real, human feedback across the gender spectrum as they design their products. According to Fine, "As one of the few sexual pleasure companies to incorporate human feedback into our engineering process, we’re proud to create a safe space to host honest conversations that help people explore sexuality and health." Dame also recently introduced an impressive clinical board of medical advisors, who weigh in on everything from development to designs to workshops. Yasss, research!

Ahead, check out some deets on all the best Dame sex toys for beginners and experienced folks alike—and yes, they're all well, WELL worth the $$.

According to Fine, Dame’s beginner-friendly toys include the bestselling Pom, a flexible external vibe that fits right in the palm of your hand. Offering both broad and targeted stimulation, this bb will take ya to pleasure town with its five intensities and five vibration patterns.

THE REVIEWS: "This really gave me the 'deathless death,'" says one tester. "I loved the intensity and settings. I loved that I could use it on my clitoris or turn it upside down and use it on my actual vaginal opening for stimulation there. I tried it in the shower and when I orgasmed with my mouth hanging open under the shower head, I wouldn't have cared if I drowned or slipped. It was heaven."

Great for both internal and external use, the Arc features a soft bulb with a beaked ridge for A+ vulva and clitoral stimulation, plus a soft, curved handle to help you ~explore~ with ease. It has five intensities and five vibration patterns, and it's also got one of Dame's strongest motors for deep, rumbly vibes.

THE REVIEWS: "The design is sleek and non-threatening, the color is great and un-gendered, and it is incredibly easy to use," one reviewer writes. "I finished about 5 times back to back the first time I used it and felt like I could clean my house, apply for a job, cure cancer, etc. I was worried the buzzing noise would put me off but it is not overwhelming—it accompanied some sexy Beyoncé beats perfectly."

If you're looking to explore the wonderful world of clit-sucking toys, then you should probs start with Aer. Using pressure wave technology, this sleek lil device mimics the flutter of a tongue and the suction of a mouth for a truly knee-buckling experience. You'll love experimenting with the five pulsing patterns and five suction intensities.

THE REVIEWS: "After a lot of research I decided to give the Aer a try and I am so glad I did. It is AMAZING," reads one review. "The orgasms it gives me are OUT OF THIS WORLD. I did not even know I could squirt until I bought this...I cannot believe that I went this long without a toy. Life changed forever."

Dame's very first product (and the world's first wearable couples vibe) is the Eva. This genius clitoral vibrator has super-flexible wings that tuck under the labia, allowing it to stay in place without the use of your hands—even during vaginal sex (!!). It's secure, comfy, and has three different intensity levels so you can get your buzz on.

THE REVIEWS: One tester writes, "Today during our session using this I had the strongest orgasm I’ve ever had during penetration. It was so good I think I left my body for a moment. I never thought I’d want to write a review for something like this, but if I get any more orgasms like that I might start handing out flyers on the corner to every woman I see."

One of Dame's newest offerings is the Com, a body-friendly take on the classic magic wand that's designed for comfort. Though it features Dame's most powerful motor yet, it's whisper-quiet, and its flexible neck allows Com's soft, bulbed head to hit allll the right angles. Have fun with its five intensities and five vibration patterns—if you can handle 'em all, that is. 😏

THE REVIEWS: "Com was my first vibrator and I love it!" one reviewer writes. "I love the different power and patterns settings...and the fact that it is larger and focuses on the external areas. I have the most intense orgasms and am so happy with my purchase!"