The good outing of the Nigerian contingent to the the Commonwealth Games is still garnering rave reviews. The gold medals won by the ladies in the track and field events put the country in the spotlight and Nigerians something to cheer about. The achievements of the contingent creditably took attention away from the killings by rampaging terrorists in various states.
Meanwhile, here and there, some filthy men would rather regale each other with tales of how many ladies they had slept with as if what they deserve medals. Worthless medals. There will never be a time in the history of mankind when men would be judged solely on the basis of their great performance in bed or otherwise. Never! Rather they would be assessed with real achievements, emotional intelligence, conduct and other parameters. No man would ever win award just for being a sexy hunk with the right size and drive of his private weapon. Men who talk about the number of women they have slept with are just rabble-rousers. On several occasions, this is the kind of discussion that goes on when such men gather to drink and discuss European Premier League matches. Soon enough someone among them would table ladies discussion and begin to pour out filty details of their escapades, whether real or imagined.
It is at such times they would talk about “tasting” and “testing” this or that other lady. It is a very big insult to womanhood when she is tasted or either tested. After the boring ‘taste and test’ what then happens? Will the tester get a pat on the back for being a worthy testing instrument? Would the relationship continue or the lady dumped to lick her wounds while the ‘tasting and testing’ spree continues? One then asks, when will the tastebud get tired of tasting samples of honey? While such a man is on the tasting galore, what stops him from shutting his trap instead of painting the town red with irritating stories and dropping names of all the women he tasted or tested?
It should be a shameful thing for a man to name and brag about his partners in bed. Such attitude would certainly mean that a good relationship cannot develop between them. It would rather tear down the fabrics of love, trust and good nature. That a man got into a relationship with a woman is not a reason for careless talk, rather there should be mutual respect. Men who prattle about ladies in this manner obviously do not realise that women are deeply hurt when private moments shared with a man they perhaps like are brought into the open. Men who do this deserve no medal. Rather, such men should have their staff of office taken away. Or in the least get a well-delivered kung fu kick in the groin, from the lady so hurt. That would be a good medal!
More worrisome is that this offensive practice of “kiss-and-tell” starts very early. You find teenage secondary school boys, between 15 and 17 years, would talk in a sexually derogatory way about their female schoolmates. Take the case of two classmates in co-educational school, Lanre and Kemi who had issues after a fling. Lanre, an academically poor student, took opportunity of the strained relationship to brag about his sexual prowess. He said to the hearing of others: “Have you forgotten how you used to enjoy and cry when I wield my rod on you? What have I not seen in your body, is it that flat fallen breast of yours or the terrible odour that emanates from you.” Can you imagine such impudent nonsense coming from a young boy? Already, Lanre has started manifesting early a sick attitude of proving his worth with sex that what would most likely get worse as he gets older. Of course, young, naïve fellow students who do not know better began to spread the news like harmattan fire within the school environment. Poor Kemi was crushed by shame and fear among her classmates, especially the girls.
The truth is, no matter how accomplished a woman is, the moment her sexual life is unveiled, it brings her very low in spirit and leaves her with unforgettable moments in life. No matter how hardened, exposed and bold a woman proves to be, no one wants her sexual life to be tpoic for discussion. In her quiet moment, she would wish such sexual experience never happened. Such horrible moments feel like a deep cut in the heart. The bad experience could be likened to a rape case which leaves an indelible mark on the victim. When a lady trusts and thinks her man would protect her during the good and bad times, it will become absurd to begin to hear of one’s private life being exposed with glee.
The men keep oppressing the women with sexual prowess because it is a hidden treasure that is not a field and track event. That exposure means nothing to the men, but breaks women into shreds. One remembers with nostalgia the death of a former NTA golden voice newscaster who took her own life years ago because her sexuality was molested by a conman. Another songstress battled for life when her sexuality was also trampled on. That singular act stripped her of her endorsements, especially the one with children emphasis. To the men, it is neither here or there. A certain Nollywood actress once described her ex-husband as a one-minute-man, most people did not take her serious because she already had a child for her ex. Even if her man crawled with his manhood to do the needful, the fact is that he delivered productively and allegation had no weight. Another careless lady shot herself in the leg when she sent her nude picture to her ex-boyfriend, a former state governor. When the bubble burst, the lady needed divine intervention to reverse the harm she did to herself by the irresponsible act.
Fred, a teacher, was a former neighbour, who was very fond of claiming supremacy while proving his worth with sex. Whenever stories of other neighbours who had packed out came up, his utterances were not devoid of two very derogatory expressions. One had the ‘F’ word, and the other was, ‘I don taste her’. To prove his sexual worth, he had almost gone round all the female singles including the cleaners in the neighborhood. What a useless boast. Nom matter his vaunted sexual competence, never for once did the Nigerian Union of Teachers recognize or consider recommending him to the government for an award, even though knew the minutest detail of the anatomy of the ladies he claimed to have ‘tasted’ and ‘tested’ in his memory and even bragged about such knowledge.
However, I blame women, who are the very ones that enable such men. That is why women must be careful and know the type of men to roll in the hay with. Men should stop proving their worth with sex. No medals are given for it.
RE: Prodigal Daughter called Nora…
It was an excellent piece
Your piece on the prodigal daughter is so excellent, please permit me to include in my pamphlet ‘Foundation for Youth Success.
–Reverend Woko. , Aglican Church, Port Harcourt.
I love your educative write-ups
I am one of the ardent readers of your write ups in Sunday Sun Newspaper. Thank you for all the educative writings on various issues. May God continue to direct and help you as you expose all these evils in our society. Keep it up my dear. May God bless you and your family. In Jesus name. Amen.
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